Reasons You Aren’t Finding Mr. Right: It’s Not His Fault, It’s You

You’ve finally hit that time in your life when you want to find Mr. Right, get married, live together, and maybe even have children. You’re done with flings and random hook-ups and instead you’re ready to find that one guy who you can happily settle down with. We’re not psychic, but we bet finding Mr. Right has proven to be a bit harder task than you ever expected. Confused as to why? Here are a few reasons why Mr. Right seems to be eluding you.

YOU LACK SELF-ESTEEM AND CONFIDENCE:

For some reason or another, your self-esteem and self-confidence have taken a huge hit. You don’t think that anyone could ever really love you and therefore your standards are lower and you’re willing to date whoever. Before you’ll ever find Mr. Right, you’ll have to know and believe that you are beautiful, worthwhile, and worthy of being cared about and loved.

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YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU’RE LOOKING FOR:

So you’ve been going on dates and talking to men, but you really have no clear idea as to what you want in a guy who you plan to settle down with. Before you can find Mr. Right, you have to know what type of man fits the right mold for you, both looks and personality wise. Think about your past relationships and really figure out the things you want out of a man before really starting your search.

YOUR PAST IS HOLDING YOU BACK:

You’ve been burned in the past or rather recently, and these failed relationships have put a bad taste in your mouth when it comes to men. While you may be going on dates and meeting new people, you aren’t allowing yourself to be open and carefree. Instead, you’ve put up a wall that is holding you back from finding the right guy for you.

YOU’RE LOOKING IN THE WRONG PLACES:

You like going to the mall, to the club, and to the bar, so you’ve instinctively started looking for men at these places. While it’s not impossible to find Mr. Right at one of these locations, the chances are quite slim. When you’re looking in the wrong places, the possibility of running into a guy that you like and can connect with is very rare.

YOU’RE EXTREMELY PICKY:

Having expectations is one thing, but you can’t expect to find Mr. Right if you’re looking for a flawlessly perfect man who is all but a god. Expectations are one thing, but being too picky narrows down the number of options you have, and in a world of already slim pickings you may be shutting Mr. Right out without knowing it.

YOU’RE HUNG UP ON AN EX

Even though you two have broken up, you still cannot let him go completely. You still think about him a lot and you even send him a text message here and there. You think that no one in the world will amount to what your ex was when you two dated. The important thing to remember is that your ex is an ex for a reason. Dwelling on him and not allowing yourself to move on may result in missed chances with Mr. Right.

YOU’RE WAITING FOR HIM TO FIND YOU:

Instead of hitting up the dating scene and putting yourself out there, you’re waiting for him to come to you. When you see a guy that is sending you vibes, instead of approaching him, you wait for him to approach you, and sometimes the approach never happens at all. If you’re seriously looking to find Mr. Right, you’ll have to become much more of a go-getter. Waiting around and hoping that he will come to you doesn’t work very well.

YOU’RE TOO BUSY FOR DATING:

When you’re not at work you’re at school, and when you’re not at school you’re doing homework. Simply put, your life is extremely busy, and fitting in time to go out and find a guy is all but impossible. Unless you set aside time to go out and socialize with men, you won’t ever find Mr. Right. Finding the guy for you requires time, and a not so jam-packed schedule.

DATING INTIMIDATES YOU:

Clearly this is a problem within itself. You can’t find Mr. Right unless you’re out dating and meeting people. If dating intimidates you, you’ll need to get over your fear long before you’ll ever find the man who is right for you. Being intimidated by dating more than likely means that you’re intimidated by relationships too.

YOU SETTLE:

Instead of taking the time to find a guy that really wants you and one you’re really into, you prefer to settle for just anyone. This usually happens when you just want to be in a relationship and have someone to call yours. Settling really won’t allow you to find the guy who is the right one for you.

YOU DON’T SHOW YOUR BEST SIDE:

When you go on dates, you tend to not show the real you. You’re either too shy, too talkative, or completely unsure of the whole thing. While the side you show isn’t the best side of you, it’s the side that your date sees, and the only one he knows. More than likely that won’t impress him and you’ll be right back at square one.

YOU’VE LIMITED YOUR OPTIONS:

Maybe you live in a small town or refuse to try online dating. Whatever the circumstance, you’ve limited the number of options you have when it comes to men by not thinking out of the box a bit. Having limited options reduces your chances of finding the guy who is meant for you. Venture out and expand the possibilities.

YOU’RE STUCK ON MR. RIGHT NOW:

Instead of letting time take it’s course and finding the real Mr. Right, you’re sticking with Mr. Right Now who fits the bill for the time being, but who you know in your head is not the right one for you. Being impatient when it comes to dating can definitely be problematic. As mom always said, patience is a virtue.

YOU’RE NOT DARING ENOUGH:

You prefer to try to date someone you know, or to date someone who is a good friend’s friend. In today’s world, you have to be a bit more outgoing and daring if you really want to find the one who is Mr. Right for you. Be open to blind dates as well as to online dating. You’ll find Mr. Right when you least expect him.

Hopefully these points would help you on your way to finding love and happiness.