I came across this article online and
decided to share. Its a lengthy article of famous
comedian giving relationship advice to the ladies. Read the article below: -
This morning, I posted a pm on my BB
asking what makes a relationship strong? I also offered some hints… Is it
money? Communication? s*x? Trust? Understanding? Respect? Kids? Religion?
Attention? Support?
Amazingly, over 45 people jumped on
the hints. Some even agree that all of them make a relationship strong and last
longer. Some even said once you have say, 7 of those things covered it will
definitely be strong.
THEY WERE ALLLLLLLLLLL SOOOOOOO
WRONG!!!!
That’s why we are battling every day. We put the ABUNNA before
the horse.
The thinks that weaken a relationship
are more important. They look like nothing, but as they gradually eat into the
vitals of the relationship, the foundation begin to wobble and eventually cave
in. That’s what leads to the irreconcilable differences you often hear about.
It is easy to quickly lump these
micro killers under a general factor, but trust me, dealing with them
individually works better than just saying “The problem we have, She does not
respect me”. Not respecting is the final destination. There were many steps to
that point.
When you fail to provide in the
house, when you talk down on, no show of gratitude, making others look down on,
not involving the other in decision making… Finally it builds up to the person
short changed losing all forms of respect. So it’s not LACK OF RESPECT. it’s
what led to it.
I have seen a MUSLIM husband and a
Christian wife live till death put them apart. So it’s not religion. You can
practice different religion but still be married longer than even Pastors. It’s
not about prayer is the key… Do you treat your husband like the religion you
practice say you should? Do you relate with him like a friend? Do you forgive?
Do you hold on to issues that have been apologized for and bring same up like
its fresh wounds?
Communication. What you say. When you
say it. How you say it. Which should not be said. Where you say it. Who you say
it to…. May be the reason that the foundation is shaky. You can’t use the tone
you use to talk to your driver, plumber, brother, househelp… And think you have
communicated. If you say things that you ought not to say at all, and you now
even say it in public, TI RE TI BA e NIYEN. You want something but instead of
saying you want it, you are saying, “Even Bayo of all people takes his wife to
the movies!” You had better renew your DSTV… Because you are going no where!
Some women say men DONT give them
attention. And, according to them, it’s very important in a relationship. Some
men even say they DONT get the attention they used to get like when they got
married. Selfish bastard. She is raising your kids, running the home, looking
good for you and being a good employee to a company, if she is employed. So,
bear in mind that the attention may not be like you used to get. And
understanding matters. For women who crave attention. A MAN WHO IS AT YOUR BECK
AND CALL 24/7 is a liability. Layabiliteeeee! So if you call or he doesn’t call
as often as he used to, it’s not lack of attention. It’s hustle. Same goes for
the woman. Like my wife, she gets home sometimes 8 or 9pm… There are people who
get home 10 or 11 sef
Finance, I agree without a doubt make
a relationship stronger. But it doesn’t if that is used as the yardstick for
judging the strength of love. If it becomes a yardstick, then the person
dropping more rules the relationship and if there is someone with a deeper
pocket, oleku!
Simple gratitude, sometimes matters
more than s*x. I mean it. That someone calls you out of the blues to say thanks
for that and this… This and that, can make a relationship stronger. Some people
do not know how to say thanks. And on top of that, they will be giving people
the impression that the person they are with, is not doing anything. You had
better put your mouth where your money is. Because LOBATAN will be a word you
will get used to when the generosity is withdrawn. And you will fade into
oblivion. Say thank you. Say I appreciate what you are doing. Sometimes I tell
my wife, thanks for supporting me oooo. Nothing spoil. Thanks for accepting me
the way I am OOO. Thanks for making me a better guy. Be grateful. It’s the two
of you DAMN!
Very often you hear, I don’t trust
him again. It is not an airtime credit that you just loaded. It is that message
that you get that says, your call credit has been exhausted PLS load an all in
one card. Thank you. That is, all the different things that you have been doing
(calls made) have eaten up all your credit (trust). You’re either going to
reload or use a business centre. Trust is rechargeable. Some may give you
credit window… What you do with it restores or further erodes what was left.
Friends can strengthen your
relationship or burn it up. Some friends will tell you you are stupid to
tolerate your bobo having a girlfriend, yet they are still with their own bobo
that is sleeping with their HOUSEHELP and neighbour. Or even have fathered a
child her BESTO is carrying. But will inflame your own affair. It’s not all
advice you get that fit your relationship. But some friends will make your
relationship stronger through visits, encouragement, settling small quarrels and
telling you your relationship is their model.
I would have written about the role
of the family, but trust me, you all know that well enough. Or has your African
Movie Magic been suspended?
Next one JARE.
You are not a microwave. Stop getting
hot for no reason. Even for any reason, control yourself. If you look around
hot tempered babes are tolerated. Not craved. That your sharp mouth is for
what? Are you a Gillette brand ambassador? Cut it out!
Me, that is writing this much, do you
know that, the amount of time I spend on line has become an issue with my madam
at the top. I had to reduce it. No need to sacrifice my relationship to please
some people. Same people will be so delighted to read that my wife and I are
quarreling over one message some babe sent me online. So don’t send messages,
call me when she is not around… HEHEHEHE
Ok I think I have let the comedian
part of me kick in.
As I was saying, beyond the core
issues, a lot of micro and macro things that may seem like nothing but are
significant tug at our relationships. Let’s pay attention…
Have a nice day
I dey rush so no time to proofread. GBAGAUN if you like just
DONT miss the message.
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